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Identifying and Setting Goals: Creating a Life You Love!

10/6/2014

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As I’ve been revamping my business approach, I noticed that I’d spent little time on developing goals. I had the usual, “I want to have more clients,” “I want to help others,” “I want to increase my income,” etc., but I found that I hadn’t spent enough time on developing good goals and strategies. So, I’ve been researching this topic, and I’m going to pass on the results of what I’ve learned to you. Can you say, “FREEBIE!!”? If it were me, I’d be all over this. I'm going to give you my goals worksheet and my weekly business planning worksheet.

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We all have dreams - Goals help us reach them!
So, a goal is all about change. There is something going on, and you either want to completely change the situation or you want to alter it in some way that will be favorable to you or what you want. The first thing you need to know is that you have to have an idea of what you want to see happen. You also need to know what the reality you’re facing is and what could get in the way. So, what comes next?


Here are some questions you can ask:


  • What do I want to see happen? What is my desired outcome?
  • What are the conditions I’m facing now, and what needs to change?
  • What are the/some obstacles that I can see getting in the way of change?
  • Is this a long-term goal, or one that can be achieved in a short or moderate time period?
Next, think about ways to answer these questions. At this point, don’t worry about them being realistic. If you want to imagine an alien space god swooping down in a magical flying saucer with a glowing magic wand – go ahead! There isn’t anything wrong with that, and it may actually lead you to consider strategies or aspects of the situation that you hadn’t noticed before. The basic idea here is that you want to identify the changes you want to see happen. It’s a really important step – we need to know where we want to go before we plan the trip.

It's also important to consider why this goal is important. The who, what, when, and where are covered in the "nuts and bolts" (“SMART”) section. How will achieving this goal help you, your situation, or the people you’re working with? This is a great time to link your goal to your overall mission or dream. Example: Develop at least three coaching or therapy strategies to put on my web page that emphasize positive growth for individuals.

S.M.A.R.T. Goals, and then some:

Now that you’ve identified the rough goal, we need to move on to details. The bottom line here is that you want to be effective so that you maximize your chances of achieving the change you want. I’ve found is that, if you want to set goals, there are many, many, many sites and books that will help you. Great – but how do you figure out what works? Well, I found that there were some common systems that popped up over and over. For setting goals, one in particular is very common and very helpful in setting goals. It’s the S.M.A.R.T. system. It’s an acronym, and each letter stands for a different aspect of a good goal.

  • S = Specific: This is where you define the nuts and bolts, like who/what/when/where. To help with this, use active and direct words. Example: I will balance my financial business log every Monday before 5 PM.
  • M = Measurable: This is where you’ll put the information that will tell you whether or not you’ve achieved the goal. Example: I will write and complete at least 5 new workbook pages within the course of a 7-day week.
  • A = Action-Oriented: The best goals lead to action. You can't achieve your goal if you don't take action, and here is where you'll define the actions you'll take. It's important to define what you will do. Example: I will set aside 1 hour per day to focus on blog writing. I will sit down with my calendar at the beginning of the week and schedule in those blocks of time.
  • R = Realistic: This is actually where a lot of goals fall down. In this category, you consider what is realistic and “do-able.” If I were to set a goal of, “I will be signed by an NBA team within 2 years and I will practice 4 hours per day at least 6 days per week,” the goal would be specific and measurable, but it would not be achievable. No matter how hard I work and no matter how well the goal is stated, I will not be an NBA player. However, I will achieve DBT certification from The Linehan Institute within two years, and will complete one certification activity every month is achievable given my skills, abilities and resources.
  • T = Time Bound/Limited: Your goals are more likely to succeed if you have a target time for completion, or have specifically defined how often you will engage in certain strategies. The example goals in the “S” and “M” categories give you an idea of how you can use time strategies to help you be specific. Here’s another example: Every Monday for the next 6 months, I will take 2 hours to review my weekly and monthly goals and chart my progress in achieving those goals, for at least 90% of the days available. ​

5 Principles of Goal-Setting to Help You Out:

Dr. Edwin Locke first developed goal-setting theory in the late 1960’s and was later joined by Dr. Gary Latham. These two psychologists eventually published a book, “A Theory of Goal Setting & Task Performance,” in which they described SMART goals. They also discussed 5 principles of goal setting that improve chances of success:

  1. Clarity – This is where the S.M.A.R.T. technique comes in. We want our goals to be clear, so we know what we need to do.
  2. Challenging – You want to hit a sweet spot here. If a goal is too easy, it doesn’t help us grow. However, if it’s too hard we end up becoming discouraged. Bottom line? We want our goals to be challenging enough to keep us motivated and easy enough for us to see some forward progress.  When we see progress, we need to celebrate it too!
  3. Commitment – This is where the rubber meets the road. This is where self-discipline and hard work enter the picture. This is also a good place to remind yourself of the “why” or “R” part of your goal. Why are you doing this, again? Why is it important? This aspect is important, because this is what keeps you motivated
  4. Feedback – You want to know how well you’re doing in reaching your goal. Feedback is information related to your progress. It can come from other people, or from your own measurements of progress (remember the “M”?) If you’re receiving feedback from someone else, work to stay open to hearing what they have to say. Many of us feel defensive when we’re given feedback. In the end, it’s information for us – and realizing that can help take some of the sting out of feedback we don’t like.
  5. Complexity – Task complexity becomes a factor when the complexity of the task makes achieving the goal difficult (or in some cases, impossible). When the task is too complex, we tend to feel overwhelmed, which can lead to procrastination or all-out avoidance. Neither is helpful in getting us to where we want to be. If a goal seems too complex, take some time out to analyze it. If you need to, break it down into smaller, more manageable chunks. Breaking things down has a nice side benefit – you can more easily see your progress and you can gain a sense of accomplishment toward the overall goal.

Resources for you:

When you consider everything that goes into identifying and setting goals, you can see that it’s a complex process. Like any skill, though, the more you practice it the easier it gets. In the next post, I’m going to write about strategies you can use to help you achieve your goals. For now, here are some great resources you can use:

  • Mind Tools: (http://www.mindtools.com/) Mind Tools is a subscription-based website, but there are lots of free articles there as well. Their articles on goal-setting are very helpful
  • Free Online Library for Managers, “Effective Goal Setting”: (http://www.free-management-ebooks.com/dldebk/dlpr-goal.htm) This site has a free e-book on goal setting.
  • Berkeley’s goal-setting handout: (http://hrweb.berkeley.edu/learning/career-development/goal-setting/career-plan-vision)
  • While I don’t like the name, the “Dummies” series often has some good information. Their handout on setting goals is helpful: (http://www.dummies.com/how-to/content/set-goals-and-objectives-in-your-business-plan.navld-810584.html)
  • Free online goal-tracking from Business Management Daily: (http://www.businessmanagementdaily.com/32053/setting-tracking-goals-the-best-5-free-online-tools)
  • Jennifer Lee, “The Right Brain Business Plan”: Jennifer is a guru for those of us who are challenged by the black-and-white world of strict business planning. She has managed to make business planning (and thus goal-setting) a fun and enriching process. You can find her book, “The Right Brain Business Plan” on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/The-Right-Brain-Business-Plan-Creative/dp/1577319443. Her website is at: http://www.rightbrainbusinessplan.com/.
  • Leonie Dawson’s Business Site, “The Amazing Biz and Life Academy”: Leonie is one of those people who has worked *hard* to get where she is. Because her business is centered around business and personal growth, she markets her stuff through the academy. It’s pricey, but the business materials are worth it. I love her “Double Your Biz” program! (http://amazingbizandlifeacademy.com/)

The Freebies: Goal Planning Worksheets!

These are worksheets that I have created and use in my practice. The "Weekly Business Planning" document is the one I use for my business - feel free to modify it (with credit, of course... plagiarizing ain't cool!)
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