I still have dreams where I am trying to escape storms, either at sea or tornadoes. I grew up in Tornado Alley, so the tornado dreams make sense, and water is a personal symbol of mine that I know represents my emotions. In working with these dreams, I practice several similar processes. For the storm dreams, I realized that the storm represented stress and feeling out of control for me, so I would visualize running down into a safe, underground area, where I would wrap myself in blankets and pillows, and ride out the storms. I would then visualize emerging safe from the storm. For the water dreams, because water represents emotions for me, I realized that a "storm" meant intense, uncomfortable emotions, so I would visualize myself in a boat, or with my husband (my rock and best friend) reaching shore safety. With my feet on the ground (literally grounding myself in the dream), I would tell myself that I was safe and I could get through the storm. That o ne took a little more practice, but over time, it also worked.
Dream symbols are another fascinating aspect of working with dreams. Our conscious brains tend to be very analytical and logical, but in our sleep, our subconscious is not limited by what's real or logical. Dreams thus tend to be highly symbolic, and may mean more than just the immediate, surface-level content. Good ol' Freud got a lot of things wrong, but he created the idea of dream analysis. Freud believed that there were universal symbols that reflected life forces (what he called the libido) and psychosexual conflicts. For example, houses represented the self, purses represented the uterus, and anything long, hard or thin represented the phallus (which is where we get "phallic symbol" from). If you look at or purchase a dream dictionary, chances are at least some of the meanings are drawn from Freud's work; these works are based on the idea of universal symbols. However, we've since learned that culture, experience, and personality affect how we create symbols and meaning. For that reason, I tend to believe that a more individualized interpretation is more appropriate. When I work with dreams in therapy, I first ask the client what they think things mean. We then collaborate on possible meanings of different aspects, and I absolutely respect what my clients come up with. After all, I'm not living their life and I haven't had their experiences. And, as Freud famously said once, "sometimes a cigar is just a cigar."
So how do you figure out what your dreams mean? First, spend some time writing down what you remember of your dreams. Make note of things that tend to reoccur, especially objects, because chances are that those objects symbolize something for you. Write in the present tense, as if you were experiencing it now, as that tends to help you stay in the emotion and context, and write down as much as you remember of the dream, as soon as you are able. If you feel comfortable keeping a pad of paper or journal by your bed, do so, but don't force yourself, Keep track not just of the content, but also of any emotions, associations, or unusual elements. Our brains are amazing in processing material and creating connections between things that don't seem related, and many times those associations and connections show up in our dreams. Start thinking about what the objects, people, places, colors, and other facets mean, and write down those ideas. Even if it turns out that you change your mind or the meaning seems to shift, you'll be on your way to a greater appreciation of the power of your own mind and of your life.
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