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Achieving Goals: How to Create Strategies

10/27/2014

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Now that we've talked about identifying your goals, let's talk more about how to get there. First, though, here's a re-cap of the process: So, last week, we figured out how to identify our goals. The system we discussed was the SMART system; there are others as well. However, If you look at the process involved in setting and achieving goals, it breaks down into a series of "whats" and "hows" and looks something like this:

WHAT: What do you want to do? 
     Identifying and Setting Goals
  •      “I want to…”
HOW, Pt. 1: Generating ideas for how you can do it 
     Strategizing
  •      “I could try…”
HOW, Pt. 2: Committing to certain steps and building in accountability 
     Action Planning
  •      “I will…” and “I’ll keep on track by…”
WHAT: Doing it!! 
     Action Steps
  •      “I am doing…”
HOW, Pt. 3: How well did it go?
     Evaluation/Feedback
  •      “I did…  and it worked/didn’t work… Next time, I could…”
So, how do we create strategies?

How to Create Strategies

After you know what your goal is, the very first thing to look at is whether or not the goal is something YOU want or need to accomplish. If it’s not, ask yourself how necessary the goal is, and if you need to step back and re-evaluate. While achieving goals set by someone else may be important (think about work objectives), having at least an element of personal investment makes it much more likely you’ll achieve the goal. If the goal is not something you want or need to do, and is coming from someone else, then you’re less likely to achieve it. So, personal investment (“buy-in”) on at least some level is critical to your success.

If your answer is yes, there are some important questions to ask yourself, which will help you develop strategies. Some of these questions include:
  • What will I get out of achieving this goal?
  • How will going through this process help me? What will I gain from doing this?
  • What will I lose if I don't achieve this goal?
  • How does this goal fit with my dreams, my values, and/or my long-term plans

The botton line is that it's hard to develop strategies for something that isn't worth it to you. This takes time and energy. Strategies 
are the things that will help you reach your goal and keep you motivated. There is power in words, and power in seeing these answers made visible. So, write down your reasons and your motivations! Writing makes these aspects physical and real.

One other thing is important - recognizing what you can and can't control. This is important because if you develop strategies that depend on somebody else doing something or on something happening, you may not be able to achieve your goal. So make sure that when you're developing strategies, that the items included are things you can control.

Generating "Coulds"

So, once you know that your goal is something you really are invested in pursuing, your next step is to develop possibilities for ways to achieve it. This is where you generate your ideas – your “I could…”s. One thing that will probably help you is to break your goal down into manageable pieces, and these smaller pieces can lead you to “coulds.” Make sure to include small, relatively easy to achieve “coulds,” because they will give you much-needed emotional boosts. Being able to see progress and success is a key to staying motivated. Larger coulds are important too, but don’t forget the small stuff! 
Here’s an example: Goal = Posting a Blog Post Every Two Weeks.
 I could:

  • Look at different types of blogging and decide what would work best for me and my schedul
           Video blogging
           Narratives
           Tutorials
           Picture/Journal Prompt
           Others?
  • Look at my schedule and put in time for writing. Mondays look good!
  • Make a list of topics I want to write about
  • Look at two blog planning tools, and pick one to work with
  • Put together a brief survey and ask people what they want to read
  • Set up a schedule that includes deciding on a topic, researching the topic, writing and editing rough drafts, and posting  a final version
  • Research writing effective blog posts
Another idea is to look for opportunities – what are some ways you can expand what you are already doing? What are new ways of seeing the process?;
  • Who could I meet or talk with that might help me achieve this goal?
  • What can I give back? Giving back creates opportunities in itself – you never know what you might find, or who you might meet!
  • Think backwards – “What if I already reached my goal? What did I do that got me here?”
  • Be ridiculous! Even if what you are thinking isn’t realistic, write it down anyway. It might lead to think about things differently, and see an opportunity or idea that you might have missed otherwise.

Identifying and Gathering Resources

  • Finding resources are important as well – What do you need to reach your goal? How can you gather those resources? Where can you acquire resources? 
  • Don’t reinvent the wheel – find what’s already out there! Libraries, bookstores, web sites can be treasure troves of information. However: Don’t plagiarize! If you’re going to use someone else’s stuff, give them credit. If you need permission to use their materials, get it. It’s not OK to steal, and using someone else’s stuff is stealing.
  • Take time – time is a resource, and too often we don’t set aside time to work on what’s important to us. 
               * Carve out a small bit so you can think about your next step – even if it’s simply 5 minutes a day. 
               *Schedule larger amounts of time for more in-depth work, and stick to your schedule. Make an 

               appointment with yourself!
               *Turn off your phone, shut your door, tell those around you that you need time to work.  Set up your 
               environment for success!
               *Take yourself seriously – your goals matter, your time matters, and you matter.


               * Setting up and keeping time available for this process is a boundary issue!

Strategies for Rewarding Progress

A very important piece of strategizing that is often left out involves planning rewards for progress. It's drawn from a very basic psychological principle: If you want a behavior to continue or increase, reinforce it. Creating rewards or opportunities for rewards is important in achieving goals, because it's a motivator for success. So, consider:
  • What is rewarding to you? What do you enjoy?
  • How can you effectively tie those things to achieving small steps in your progress? For example, if you like to read and want to stay motivated, can you read a book or even a novel about something related to your goal? If you like getting a cup of coffee, can you give yourself that after finishing one action step?
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  • Can you allow yourself to bask in the feeling of accomplishment? This is important - too often, we minimize or even disqualify the positives. Allowing ourselves to savor the positives keeps us motivated!
  • Can you set up a system where you gift yourself with something as a "congratulations"? It doesn't have to be anything tangible - maybe even a Facebook post recognizing your achievement. For example, "I finished Chapter Two! Progress made!"
The bottom line here is that we need to plan rewards as well as tasks. Rewards motivate us and remind us of success!

Beware the Rabbit Hole!

Don’t fall down the rabbit hole! When we’re planning and developing strategies, it’s very easy to get hooked by social media or other resources that we find interesting. You might look up one resource on Pinterest, and find yourself still browsing cool stuff two hours later. That said, make sure you build in time where you can enjoy those things you find interesting - that's part of rewarding yourself. If you get too caught up in the work process, you may find yourself burning out and losing motivation. So, like many things, balance is important. So, choose when to go down the rabbit hole!

Coming Up:

Coming up next: Making and following through with an Action Plan. Stay tuned for setting up your to-do list and committing to making it happen.

As always, the information on this blog is not intended to be therapy or therapeutic advice. If you are struggling and want or need support, there are resources available and people who want to help. If you’re in crisis or in an emergency situation, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room for help. There are people who care, and you don’t have to be alone.

If you’re interested in working with Dr. Burlingame-Lee, for either coaching or counseling, please feel free to get in touch! My phone number is 970-776-6043 and my email address is: thepowerofeachother@outlook.com. I am available for individual and group counseling, and for individual and group coaching.  I offer seminars and workshops on a variety of topics covered here on this blog.

I’d love to hear from you!




All information and content on this blog is © 2014 by Dr. Laura Burlingame-Lee, Ph.D. dba "The Power of Each Other." For inquiries regarding reproduction or use for any purpose please contact me at (970) 776-6043.
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